I have been dealing with a shocking (to me) situation with my 15 yr old daughter that lives in Wisconsin. Without going into a lot of detail, she has been talking with several men (if thats what you call them) online. The State police have even arrested one of these perverts for coming to meet her. Now I know she is to blame for some of this but this guy was 43 yrs old!!! My ex has put spyware on the PC that records every keystroke and she sent me a few of these chat logs and what I read gave me nightmares.
I wanted to go have a litle "talk" with a few of these guys I have tracked down. But I'm not ready to go to prison. SO I found a way to do something about these sick freaks. I found a web site everybody with kids online should see. It's www.perverted-justice.com
This group busts these guys like you wouldnt beleive. Some of the people in their forums tracked these guys down for me. I had one of these guys info in 3 hours. I mean his name, address, job info, boss's name, neighbors names and phone numbers, record on his house from the county, and a criminal background. SOme of these people are not playing around and take this very seriously. ANyway didnt mean to rant just thought some of you might be interested to see this website.
More and more law enforcement agencies (not just in the big cities) are forming internet crime units. I know they have a long way to go, but they are doing a good job of getting some of these perverts behind bars instead of behind a keyboard.
Hope things go well with trying to get your daughter to understand the danger she could have put herself in.
Rick, thanks for the info and no it was not a rant. We all need to be aware of this stuff.
Folks, please take note and make sure you have a talk with your loved ones. It can happen to anyone. If you think it only happens to those other families, THINK AGAIN. One of my sister's closest friends left college and took off to Canada to be with her internet boyfriend. This man is at least 15 years her senior, had children with another women, etc. This girl was class validictorian, went to a good Christian school, from a sound family with good economic resources. Last I heard she stopped talking to everyone she knows, closed off all internet communication, and has "disappeared".
Sure, teens need their "privacy". But its important to stay close and keep an eye out for them. Stay involved in their life and let them know they're important to you.
I cannot stand this. I have been working with a small group of network administrators and other computer folks trying to put together some parent education on the subject. I plan to visit several churches in the area and offer a seminar for parents on how to protect their children from these predators.
It is one of my duties at work to monitor network traffic and what is being stored on company computers. I have had several bad days in the past year as our HR department has a –ZERO- tolerance policy for pornographic material.
Having grown up on the net from it's early days, I can honestly say that my kids will never EVER be able to use any chat software that isn't logged to a text file :D
The whole thing isn't the way it used to be.
Everyone and their dog has a pc with net access and it's now as poluted online as it is in the "real world" and the new laws on intent to corrupt a minor really do show how seriously it's being taken.
This of course works both ways and it's not only the sex predators and creeps who are effected, and thus it's reached a point now where if a kid comes into a chat channel or messages and says anything offhand or sexual to any degree, they're simply kicked out/ignored, because (if we're to believe what we're told) the slightest misunderstanding could throw any of us in jail and ruin our lives for so much as acknowledging the comment and it's a risk not worth ignoring.
The scum of the world takes the others down with them and so forth.
Back when I first got online ...93-94 I knew then that this would be a breeding ground for perverts and such.
I'm sorry to hear about the situation with you daughter, Ricky.
Mine just tired 8 and I'm already putting it into her head that Her and the internet are going to have rules. strict rules.
Please no one take this the wrong way. But after years of chatting online, talking to people of all ages. It's become apparent to me that those that seek "attention" or "effection" online, aren't getting it at home. Now, I'm not a psychiatrist (sp?) I have no proof of this, I performed no studied, this is just a conclusion I've come to after years of chatting online. Not to say that men aren't vurnerable as well, but when it comes to girls or women, "WORDS" have a different effect on them than men. A smooth talker can really play with a girl/womans mind.
Please, no offense to anyone. I'm not blaming no one here but the jerks that prey on little girls and lonely women online.
I've actually spent many a hours trying to talk women into signing OFFline and to staying offline.
The net is a great place to interact like no other. It's a great place for info, a great place for fun. But it's NOT a place for vurnerable lonely people. There are WAY to many sharks in these waters.
I know I'm probably opening up a can of worms here. But Ricky, or anyone for that matter, Find out "WHY" your loved one is having conversation with strangers of the opposite sex on line. Most likely it's just normal curiousity. If not, you need to find out now.
I once heard some say "If you are not giving your little girl love and effection as a father, she will go else where to get it, and not in a way you'll approve of". I don't remember who said it.
PLEASE UNDERSTAND, I'm not jumpping to conclusions, nor am I laying blame on anyone BUT the a$$holes that prey on innocent people...I'm just saying, If you have a Daughter or Spouse that is spending LOTS of time talking to people online, and most likely HIDDING it, find out "why" and what you can do to chance it before it's to late.
I know you here stories of how this couple met online, fell in love and lived happily ever after..well, the dark side is just as many people distory their marriage, are lied to for sex or money or BOTH.
Or, their little girl or boy ends up in a situation they didn't want to be in and to avoid embarrasment or punishment, do as they are told and then cover it up.
I'm getting off my soap box.....
I hope I offened no one...
"I just don't understand...
I've cut it three times and it's still too short!"
I would love to be able to do the same to the churches and parental groups around the area. If your information and documentation becomes available to public domain, please let me know so I don't have to re-invent the wheel..
It's really a great idea.. Some parents with Internet savy kids don't have the knowledge or capabilities to learn online how to protect their children..
I have been on the internet for a long time. I hate chat rooms its a total waste of time to me, my kids however loved them. It seems that the girls liked it more then the boys did. One time I logged on under one of my daughters profile (I have all their passwords and screen names)and it was within a few seconds I had perverts asking me to chat in a private room or if I wanted to cyber with them. I asked if they knew I was a 14 yr. old and they would say its ok were just chatting. Well I had a talk with all my kids.
Now 4-5 yrs later and the kids pretty much grown up and moved out, my oldest daughter met a young man on the internet and they have been happily married for about 3 years. He is a very loving husband and devoted father to my daughter and grandson. Couldnt ask for a better son in law.
The Wood Butcher!